Up

I'll write some other time about marathons and how wanting to quit, call it perseverance or idiocy, is the opposite of quitting. It applies to the whole of my life. More interesting to me now is the movie "Up." Our whole family loves it. We have to skip over the parts that make it a PG; Kelsie insists and we comply. They're scary to us too, but we find the core of the movie's message so perfect for us now. "It's the boring parts of life I like the best." says Russell to Carl, or something like that. Amen. Maybe that's the whole point of adventure: to get us in the right frame of mind to appreciate boring evenings together as a family. They are the best. They are life. These days I dream of reading more, running more, and, yes, disappearing into the beautiful, wasteful smallness of serving God wherever and however He calls, but most of all, boring times together with people I love who actually want me to love them. (The definition of love is not that someone loves me, but that someone lets me love them.) This is what Jesus did when he went away to "lonely places" all the time. He left the shallow, lifeless excitement of miraculous Messianic ministry for "boring" times alone with Dad. Jesus is so wise.

Up, indeed.

Humility

John Stott is right. Pride is my worst enemy and humility is my best friend. C.J. Mahaney's little book on humility has been helping me get to know my best friend. It's clear to me that pride is my worst enemy. I know this. I recently described myself in a sermon as having a "massive ego." It's true. So I recommend this book not as someone who should be seen as humble or humbler because he's a pastor who's recommending a book on humility. I struggle horribly with pride. I have an unabridged audio version of Mahaney's book too. So I'm reading and listening to it ... over and over. Pound it in Lord and deliver me to Your cross. One huge point that I've gleaned from this book so far: not even three years of one on one time with Jesus helped the disciples become humble. They competed for position in Mark 10:35-45, proving that not even the best preaching and teaching in the universe (Christ's) ever helps people get humble! Jesus had to die to change these men. It's Jesus' death on the cross that runs off my worst enemy and helps me run to my best friend. His death is my only hope. There is no problem in my life that doesn't melt into proper perspective in the life-giving light and warmth of the humility it generates. The cross proves once again to be home to my every need. Lord, I need You to change me on the inside. Lord, I need You to show me Your cross afresh today. Oppose all that is prideful within me and give grace to the humility You alone, by means of Your death on the cross alone, grant by grace alone.

Does this sound too pious? That's probably because, in my pride, I can't even speak cleanly about humility. I'm constantly looking for what sounds good and what makes me look good. I think I need to get back to reading my book on humility now. :)

Dances With Calendars

It's just a number, just a date, just a change of names, but, regardless, it is a new year. Sometimes it seems pointless to make a fuss about the new year, but this year I feel pulled in a new direction. Why not? What's the harm of resetting and examining my life and its impact? There's none at all, as far as I can tell. This year there's also the challenge of looking at the next ten years, as we begin a new decade. What do I think God wants from me and for me for the next ten years? Is this it? I've been wondering about my whole life recently. Again, this is a good thing. Here's some guidelines for "kicking the tires" on one's life:

1) Pray brief, intense, and frequent prayers (per Martin Luther) without lingering too long on typical prayer fare surrounding personal reflection.

2) Do all the old school goal setting stuff, no matter how cliche it may seem. For example, imagine what's possible if you had no limits. If you could do anything, what would you do? It may feel clunky at first, but dreaming like this is a faith essential. God has little interest in incremental improvements or maintaining status quo. Living by faith isn't for the faint of heart or slackers who love mediocrity. Grandiose dreaming is one of the most effective ways I know of to jump start a lackluster faith or life. Reality, with the Holy Spirit's help, will edit anything that smacks of ego or pride.

3) Forget the past. (Yes, it's that simple, though not that easy. Ask God to help.)

4) Survey your present. Where are you exactly? You can't make any progress until you know. My GPS doesn't work until it tells me where I am. It's the same with our lives.

5) Read, watch, and/or study the biographies of people you admire, people who've done what you feel called by God to do. What did they do that is different from what you are doing? What did they believe that is different from what you are believing?

6) Let someone know your goals or what's changed inside of you that may now change your life's direction. It can be me if you want, just comment here or e-mail me at jtorres@goodwillchurch.org.

7) Always remember those you love and what you want in your life with and for them. This is the hardest one for me because my vocation, as I'm presently navigating through it, tends to leave my family behind. For me, this can't continue. What are the things in your life that can't continue?

May God richly bless you and your family in 2010!

Just so you know

If you keep looking for something here for Advent 2009, find it in my special Advent blog. Here's the link: goodwilladvent2009.blogspot.com

May your Advent and Christmas this year be richly blessed!

Old Books

Ancient books are sometimes what modern problems call for. Sometimes contemporary Christian books leave me wanting more when I am struggling in life. Some old Calvin (happy 500th birthday) or Luther or Owen fills the bill nicely. Here's one brief example:

"For in Christ He (The Father) offers all happiness in place of our misery, all wealth in place of our neediness; in Him He opens to us the heavenly treasures that our whole faith may contemplate His beloved Son, our whole experience depend on Him, our whole hope cleave to and rest on Him."

Calvin, Institutes, Chapter XX, 1.

Sometimes it takes only a few old words and a few stolen minutes to redirect one's day and one's life.

Wouldn't it be something if we declared a moratorium on all new books for one year so that we could catch up on the books we haven't read yet? Such a thing might make this world a better place.

Tweary

When I first signed up for Facebook and Twitter, I tried. I tried to get into these new ways of communicating. I confess, I lost energy for them. I'm "tweary." Something about them seems to be like milk. In terms of being interesting, they have expiration dates. I know I'm not alone in this, and I think it's something about how they work and how they're designed. It's all those games and lists of things that people with time to kill are interested in. The ability to connect is good, but the mind-numbing power of the trivia should not be underestimated. This principle seems to be true across the internet.

Is anyone else out there "tweary?" I wonder if new platforms need to be created and offered. If enough of us get "tweary," maybe things will change. Maybe they will have to. Maybe this is a good thing. Boredom is often a prelude to creativity.

Great New Things

I'm thrilled at the response to my last blog entry about "The Go-Giver." Since then, many in our circles have purchased and read the book. Thumbs up every time. People go out of their way to thank me for it. Funny. All I did was read and like it. And, by now, all have seen that one of the authors (Bob Burg) and one of their friends (Fiona Ashe) left short, encouraging comments here! So cool, eh? It's like they do and live what they say in the book! Imagine this. If this catches on, this world may start really changing!

Here are some other great new (to me), potential world-changing things to be excited about:

1) Kiva - At the 2009 Willow Creek Leadership Summit, they interviewed a young woman who is one of the founders of this ministry. It is enables regular people to participate in international microfinancing! Simple and amazing.Check it out at www.kiva.org.

2) Stickk - In reading another great book, "Who's Got Your Back" by Keith Ferrazzi (author and book pictured below), I learned about a web site that is designed to help people keep their goals. The site, www.stickk.com, does two things: 1) It provides a means of costly feedback that works, and 2) it teaches us, by its design, the essence of goal-keeping, which is that we don't do it alone.

We don't do it alone. This is the truth.

May you be unalone today.

Making a Difference

There's nothing as humbling as watching people serve others. I've seen a lot of this. What a joy. On some occasions, the people were unaware of the greatness of their actions. This is the most inspiring thing to see. Recently I watched someone prepare a meal for someone just as a matter of routine, unaware that the person in receipt of it was being enormously blessed by her generosity and open-heartedness. Even people who make a little difference end up making a big difference. Once I see it, I want to get in on the difference-making myself.

My prayer today is that I won't become blinded to difference-making by the sameness of my daily life with its repetitious demands.

The Go-Giver

Every once in a while a cool little book comes along that has the potential of changing big things in the lives of those who read it. The "Go-Giver" by Bob Burg and John David Mann is just such a book. It may be just what you need. Though it is technically a secular business book, I hesitate to label it as such because its implications touch on things sacred and certainly span past business. I have found its principles to be true in my life. More importantly, I have found them taught in Scripture. Giving is everything. 50-50 is a losing proposal and "thinking win-win" never works. Go for the other guy's win. Make it a 100% win for the person on the other side of the table and you will be everything the world calls successful and more. From a pastor's perspective, you will be living like Jesus. This is what He did. This is what He taught. Don't negotiate with life and people, keeping score the whole time. Abandon yourself to the true blessing of others and stop keeping score. If you get a chance to read this little parable/story and find it valuable, let me know.

Inside Job

I feel like I'm learning it all over again. It's what inside that counts. I've been watching things go well at church for weeks now. Better than ever, I would say. It's been busy, as you can tell from my lack of postings, but it's been good, very good. For me, so much of what has been working flows from my attitude toward people. Books like "Leadership and Self-Deception" by the Arbinger Institute and "It's Not My Fault" by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend have helped me considerably. They contain nothing revolutionary, but, still, I feel as if I have experienced a little revolution this summer, albeit a revolution of the obvious. So much depends on what we think about others. If you're with someone and you think, "what a jerk" or "what a bother," there is no way you can do anything of value within range of your relationship with this person. A bad attitude toward others is like bad smell in the air; it reduces your influence on others and, if you're in leadership, reduces the possibilities for whatever environment or group you're responsible for. There's no way around this principle. There's no set of leadership techniques or skills that can smooth over your inner disregard for others. Whatever you feel about someone deep in your soul is running the show. Emotional toxins, whether they seem hidden or not, will always surface. You can bank on it. If you can't stand people, you can't lead them. If you love them no matter what, you can lead them no matter what. It really is this simple. I know both sides of this truth. Simply being aware of it changes everything.